Bossing Up: Overcoming OCD

Why Solving Your Kid's Problems May Be Making Things Worse | Ep 81

Ever feel like you're constantly trying to fix things for your anxious kid, but nothing seems to help? You're not alone. Today I'm joined by therapist Bryce Hamilton who shares why our natural parenting instincts might actually be making anxiety worse - and what to do instead.
💡 What You'll Learn:
✅ Why "good parenting" can accidentally feed anxiety (and what to do instead)✅ The magic questions that empower your kid instead of creating dependence✅ How to handle sibling conflict without becoming the referee✅ Supporting kids through divorce (and the mistakes that make it harder)✅ Why kids with OCD need you to step back (not swoop in)✅ The one thing every parent needs to hear about struggle and resilience
🔑 Key Takeaways:
"I've never met a bad parent" - We all want to do our best, but sometimes our help becomes a hindrance.
Stop jumping to problem-solving - Ask "How can I support you?" instead of "Here's what you should do."
Kids push against solutions they didn't ask for - Even 2-year-olds resist when we solve problems for them.
Struggle builds resilience - If kids never face hard things, they never learn they can handle them.
🗣️ Memorable Quotes:
"We often expect our kids to apologize when they've done something wrong, but then we're not willing to do that as a parent."
"You can't control that other parent even when you are married. You can't control anybody else."
"We need them to struggle because otherwise how do they learn to be resilient?"
📚 Resources Mentioned:
Accidental Experts Podcast with Bryce Hamilton
Find Bryce on Facebook, YouTube, and all podcast platforms
🎯 For Parents of Kids with OCD/Anxiety:
If your child struggles with OCD or severe anxiety, remember:
Validate their feelings without feeding the compulsions
Empower them to handle uncertainty
Don't swoop in too quickly - let them build confidence
Get specialized help when regular parenting strategies aren't enough
Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:04 The Accidental Experts Podcast00:53 Bryce's Background and Practice01:28 Parenting Challenges and Advice02:02 Handling Anxiety and OCD in Kids05:21 Sibling Conflict Resolution08:02 Supporting Kids Through Divorce11:41 Empowering Kids and Building Resilience14:09 Final Thoughts and Words of Wisdom15:28 Where to Find Bryce
💬 Connect with Bryce:
Podcast: Accidental Experts with Bryce HamiltonPractice: Kansas City (specializes in children, adolescents, and adult women with childhood trauma)
📱 Connect with Me:
Instagram: @erindaviscoachingTikTok: @erindaviscoachingYouTube: @erindavisyoutubePodcast: Bossing Up: Overcoming OCDWork with me: https://livebeyonddoubt.com/relationshipocdcoaching
💭 Reflection Question: What's one area where you might be solving problems for your kid instead of empowering them to find their own solutions?
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📧 Want more support? Get my FREE 5-day email course: "The Overthinker's Guide to Love" - transform relationship overthinking into relationship clarity.
💬 Ready for 1:1 help? Apply for private ROCD coaching → Relationship OCD Coaching
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Why "Sorry" Is Sabotaging Your Success as a High Achiever | Ep 80

Are you accidentally shrinking your power with one tiny word? 😳 “Sorry” might sound polite—but for high-achieving women, it’s become a silent saboteur. Behind every apology you didn’t need to make is a hit to your confidence, your credibility, and your ability to be taken seriously. In this firestarter episode, I reveal the shocking truth about over-apologizing and how it’s secretly wrecking your career, relationships, and self-worth. 💥🎯 What you’ll discover:
The jaw-dropping research proving over-apologizing makes people trust you less
How “sorry” becomes a compulsion rooted in anxiety and people-pleasing
The real difference between accountability and self-sabotage
Confident phrase swaps that command respect (without sounding rude)
 
In this game-changing episode, I reveal the shocking research about over-apologizing and give you practical strategies to break this anxiety-driven pattern once and for all. You'll finally understand why you can't stop saying sorry and what to do instead! ✨
 
📖 GRAB YOUR FREE GUIDE: Get "The Overthinker's Guide to Love" - discover the 5 biggest mistakes that lead to relationship anxiety: https://livebeyonddoubt.com/overthinkersguidetolove
 
🔍 The shocking research:- Leaders who over-apologize are rated 25% LESS competent by their teams 😱- Job candidates who say "sorry" unnecessarily are seen as less qualified 💼- Over-apologizers get promoted less often than confident communicators 📈
 
💪 Your action plan:Instead of "Sorry to bother you" → Try "Do you have a moment?"Instead of "Sorry for asking" → Try "I'd appreciate your help with something"Instead of "Sorry you had a bad day" → Try "That sounds really tough"
 
🎯 READY TO DIVE DEEPER? Join my FREE webinar "The First Step to Understanding Relationship OCD" on July 3rd and learn why you seek constant reassurance: https://livebeyonddoubt.com/webinar-registration-erin
 
💬 From overthinking to clarity in one download. Get my FREE “30 Scripts for Difficult Conversations” guide and stop wondering what to say in those make-or-break moments. Transform your communication now → https://bit.ly/30scriptsfree
 
Stop diminishing yourself with unnecessary apologies! You deserve to take up space, express your needs, and communicate with confidence. Your voice matters! 🌟
 
Try this for just ONE WEEK and watch how differently people respond to you. You've got this! 💪
 
#stopapologizing #confidence #relationshipanxiety #communication #selfworth #boundaries #overthinking #anxietyrelief #womenempowerment #relationshipOCD
 
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The Teeter-Totter in Your Head That's Ruining Everything | Tuesday Truth Talks

Have a question about anxiety or overthinking? Chat with Erin On Demand at https://bit.ly/erin-ai
 
Ever feel like your smart, logical brain just... stops working when anxiety hits? You're not imagining it. There's actual science behind why anxiety makes even the most intelligent women feel scattered and out of control.
Today I'm talking with Tami Kiekhaefer, a licensed therapist with nearly 25 years of experience, about why your brain betrays you when you're anxious - and the simple strategy that can help you take back control.
What You'll Learn:
Why you can't think straight when anxiety kicks in (it's not your fault!)
The "teeter-totter" happening in your brain that's sabotaging you
How to activate your logical brain when emotions are running high
Why perfectionism and imposter syndrome keep showing up
The difference between facts and feelings (and why it matters)
Simple breathing techniques that actually work
How to stop second-guessing your gut instincts
 
About Tami:
Tami Kiekhaefer is a licensed therapist with nearly 25 years of experience. She's the author of two books: *Preparing for the Jungle: Avoiding Snakes and Pitfalls on the Path to Healthy Love* and *From Chaos to Calm: A Six Step Strategy to Break Through Anxiety*. She's also co-host of the *Unguarded Minds* podcast.
 
Connect with Tami: HealthyHealing.net
 
Resources Mentioned:
- Inference-Based Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (ICBT)- Tami's Six-Step Strategy for anxiety- Left brain activation techniques
 
Ready to quiet your anxious mind? This episode gives you the tools to stop letting anxiety hijack your brain and start thinking clearly again.
 
🎥 Watch the full video at vip.livebeyonddoubt.com
 
Key Takeaways with Timestamps:
[00:00] Meet the therapist who's cracked the code on anxiety for high-achieving women
[00:37] Why your workplace success doesn't protect you from anxiety (and what does)
[01:25] The real reason you can't control your anxious thoughts (hint: you're focusing on the wrong thing)
[02:29] The "teeter-totter" in your brain that's sabotaging your decision-making
[04:46] How to use facts (not feelings) to beat imposter syndrome once and for all
[06:58] Why perfectionism is a "mind trap" that's killing your confidence
[09:34] The difference between internal vs. external satisfaction (and why you're addicted to the wrong one)
[12:11] Why even therapists need help getting out of their own heads
[14:06] The one thing you need to remember when anxiety tries to convince you you're not enough
 
#podmatch
 
*This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

💔 He Says 'I Love You' But It Feels Empty - Here's Why | Ep 79

🚨If you're constantly doubting your relationship even when your partner shows love, this video will change everything! 
 
Are you tired of feeling disconnected even when your partner says "I love you"? Do their sweet gestures feel... empty? You're not broken - your anxiety is just creating a filter that's blocking their love from reaching you! 💕
 
In this eye-opening episode, I reveal how relationship anxiety hijacks the 5 love languages and what to do about it. You'll finally understand why reassurance never works and how to feel your partner's love again! ✨
 
🎯 You'll discover:- Why "I love you" feels meaningless when you have ROCD 😰- The invisible anxiety filter blocking your partner's love 💔- How to upgrade each love language for anxious minds 🧠- The evidence journal technique that actually works 📝- Why pressure-free touch changes everything 🤗
 
⏰ Timestamps:00:00 - The love language problem nobody talks about01:00 - When "I love you" triggers anxiety instead of joy04:00 - The dirty water analogy (this will blow your mind!)06:00 - Words of affirmation that actually land08:00 - Creating your evidence journal for doubt spirals10:00 - Acts of service that build security12:00 - Physical touch without emotional pressure13:00 - Your action steps to feel love again
 
Stop letting anxiety steal your happiness! Your relationship CAN feel secure and peaceful again 🌈
 
🔥 FREE RESOURCES FOR YOU: 📖 Get "The Overthinker's Guide to Love" (5 biggest dating mistakes): https://livebeyonddoubt.com/overthinkersguidetolove
 
🎯 Join my FREE webinar "The First Step to Understanding Relationship OCD" (July 3rd): https://livebeyonddoubt.com/webinar-registration-erin
 
👇 GRAB MY FREE GUIDE: "30 Scripts for Difficult Conversations" Link: https://bit.ly/30scriptsfree 
 
#relationshipanxiety #lovelanguages #ROCD #relationshipOCD #stopoverthinking #anxietyrelief #relationshiphelp #overthinking #anxiousattachment #relationshiptips
 
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She Couldn't Stop Replaying That Night - Until This | Tuesday Truth Talks

📽️ Watch the full video at vip.livebeyonddoubt.com in the Tuesday Truth Talks Section.
 
You'll hear from an experienced EMDR therapist, Laurel, about the benefits and applications of eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) in treating trauma. The discussion covers the practical techniques for reducing the impact of traumatic memories, the importance of inviting positive memories for overall mental balance, and the ethical considerations in therapy. Laurel also explains the different phases of EMDR, including the crucial resourcing and preparation phase, and shares insights on how EMDR can help clients manage their trauma more effectively. A must-watch for those seeking ways to navigate their mental health journey.
 
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction to Tuesday Truth Talks01:00 Meet Laurel: EMDR Therapist01:32 Understanding EMDR and Its Applications02:15 Techniques and Methods in EMDR04:32 The Importance of Resourcing in EMDR07:34 Positive Memories and Trauma Processing09:28 Addressing Concerns and Misconceptions11:08 Benefits and Final Thoughts on EMDR12:11 Conclusion and Contact Information
 
#podmatch
 
*This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

I Thought It Was All In My Head... Until I Discovered This One Thing | Ep 78

Are you struggling with anxiety that therapy and medication just can't fix? You're not alone. In this deeply personal episode, I reveal how discovering my celiac disease changed EVERYTHING - not just for my mental health, but for my marriage that was hanging by a thread.
 
What if your anxiety isn't just "in your head"? What if the key to feeling better lies in your gut?
 
In this episode, you'll discover:Why years of therapy wasn't enough to fix my crippling anxiety [00:00]The shocking moment I realized my marriage was in danger [01:42]How a surprise diagnosis changed my entire life [02:59]The science behind how your gut directly affects your mood and relationships [04:28]Simple steps to identify if food sensitivities are sabotaging YOUR mental health [06:58]If you've tried everything to feel better but still struggle with mood swings, fatigue, or relationship problems, this could be the missing piece you've been searching for.
 
Timestamps:00:00 My Journey with Anxiety and the Mind-Body Connection 01:42 The Lowest Point: Physical and Emotional Struggles 02:59 The Diagnosis: Discovering Celiac Disease 04:28 The Gut-Brain Connection: How It Affects Mental Health 05:23 Impact on Relationships: From Struggles to Healing 06:58 Practical Steps: Identifying and Managing Food Sensitivities 07:59 Conclusion: Transforming Health and Relationships
Your body might be trying to tell you something. Are you ready to listen?
💬 From overthinking to clarity in one download. Get my FREE “30 Scripts for Difficult Conversations” guide and stop wondering what to say in those make-or-break moments. Transform your communication now → https://bit.ly/30scriptsfree
 
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*This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
 DISCLAIMER: https://bit.ly/3ycFiY4
 
#guthealth #anxietyrelief #relationshipadvice #celiacdisease #gutbrainconnection #mentalhealth #foodsensitivity #healingjourney #inflammationandanxiety #holistichealth

I Hate the Dentist Until I Learned This Trick | Tuesday Truth Talks

📽️ Watch the full video at vip.livebeyonddoubt.com in the Tuesday Truth Talks Section.
We explore overcoming a fear of the dentist through a live coaching session focused on tapping techniques. This is a personal story about dental trauma while stationed overseas, which has led to severe anxiety. Jennifer, a seasoned counselor, guides through a practical tapping exercise aimed at alleviating this anxiety. This method highlights the simplicity and effectiveness of tapping, demonstrating how it can be used independently to manage stress and fears. For the full session and additional resources, visit vip.livebeyonddoubt.com.
 
00:00 Introduction to Tuesday Truth Talks00:08 Facing My Dentist Phobia00:19 The Root Cause of My Anxiety01:02 Introduction to Tapping Exercises01:38 Live Tapping Session with Jennifer02:58 Understanding the Benefits of Tapping04:14 Guided Tapping Exercise09:48 Reflecting on the Tapping Experience11:35 Conclusion and Contact Information
 
Connect with Jennifer here:
🔗 https://www.youtube.com/@jenniferreefe949
🔗 https://www.facebook.com/angelsjen 
🔗 https://jennifer-reefe.com/ 
 
*This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

Am I a Narcissist? With Carla Litto | Ep 77

💌 Is your brilliant mind sabotaging your love life? Transform relationship overthinking into relationship clarity with my FREE 5-day email course: “The Overthinker's Guide to Love.”
 
In this episode, I sit down with Carla Lido, a no-nonsense Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in untangling difficult relationships, both romantic and otherwise. Carla chats about her book, Outsmarting Egomaniacs, which is your essential guide to identifying and dealing with narcissists and manipulators. We discuss the misuse of the term 'narcissist,' the real traits you should look for, and why true narcissists never self-reflect. We also explore how OCD sufferers often obsess over being perceived as narcissistic, and Carla breaks down the major differences between narcissistic control and the control seen in OCD. Plus, Carla provides practical advice on setting boundaries with narcissists and keeping your cool. This episode is a treasure trove of insights for anyone navigating emotionally manipulative relationships.
 
00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Introduction
01:03 Inspiration Behind the Book
01:59 Understanding Narcissism
03:02 Narcissism vs. OCD
05:50 Types of Narcissists
10:57 Gaslighting Explained
12:19 Narcissistic Relationships and Boundaries
16:39 Handling Narcissistic Manipulation
20:41 Final Thoughts and Where to Find More
 
 
💬 From overthinking to clarity in one download. Get my FREE “30 Scripts for Difficult Conversations” guide and stop wondering what to say in those make-or-break moments. Transform your communication now! 
 
✅ Join my free masterclass "The Relationship Anxiety Fix: 3 Mental Shifts to Quiet the Doubts & Feel Confident in Your Relationship" where I'll show you how to transform your relationship in just 45 minutes.
 
✨ Stop overthinking and start truly connecting. Transform your relationship starting in week 1 with Obsess Less, Love More — where high-achieving women finally find the relationship peace they deserve. Join now and experience what confidence in love actually feels like. 
 
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Redefining Passion: Intimacy and Confidence | Tuesday Truth Talks

🎥 Watch the full video in the free members area at vip.livebeyonddoubt.com 
 
Enhancing Intimacy and Self-Confidence: Overcoming Intrusive Thoughts
 
Today's episode features a conversation about overcoming intrusive thoughts and their impact on sexual wellness. My guest shares her personal journey and strategies for improving intimacy and self-esteem. Discover actionable tips such as effective communication techniques, the significance of small acts of connection throughout the day, and methods to foster a safe and trusting relationship with your body and partner. Tune in to hear valuable insights aimed at helping professional women achieve greater sexual wellness and confidence.
 
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:36 Meet Zoya: A Journey with OCD and Sexual Wellness01:45 Understanding OCD's Impact on Intimacy02:45 Strategies for Overcoming OCD in Relationships05:01 Effective Communication with Your Partner08:06 Practical Tips for Managing OCD in Intimate Moments11:29 The Importance of Connection and Foreplay14:47 Conclusion and Where to Find More Information
 
#podmatch
 
*This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
 

Wedding Anniversary Story | Ep 76

💌 Is your brilliant mind sabotaging your love life? Transform relationship overthinking into relationship clarity with my FREE 5-day email course: “The Overthinker's Guide to Love.”
 
Have you ever turned a disaster into a favorite story? In today's episode, I share two wedding day mishaps that have become beloved memories. Through these stories, I'll illustrate how perspective shifts can turn relationship challenges into meaningful moments and create stronger bonds. I also touch on coping with imperfection and provide insights on managing relationship issues with humor and grace. Don't forget to subscribe and check out my free email course 'The Overthinkers Guide to Love' at livebeyonddoubt.com. Stay tuned for an upcoming webinar on overcoming relationship anxiety, and join me next week for a special discussion on sexology. Happy anniversary to my wonderful husband!
 
00:00 Wedding Day Disasters Turned Cherished Memories
01:03 The Fainting Groomsman Incident
04:22 The Missing Wedding Ring Adventure
08:09 Lessons Learned from Wedding Mishaps
09:36 Transforming Relationship Challenges
09:55 Upcoming Topics and Farewell
 
 
💬 From overthinking to clarity in one download. Get my FREE “30 Scripts for Difficult Conversations” guide and stop wondering what to say in those make-or-break moments. Transform your communication now! 
 
✅ Join my free masterclass "The Relationship Anxiety Fix: 3 Mental Shifts to Quiet the Doubts & Feel Confident in Your Relationship" where I'll show you how to transform your relationship in just 45 minutes.
 
✨ Stop overthinking and start truly connecting. Transform your relationship starting in week 1 with Obsess Less, Love More — where high-achieving women finally find the relationship peace they deserve. Join now and experience what confidence in love actually feels like. 
 
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*This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
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